What's wrong with a little......."FOREPLAY?"

Often times we look at or listen to something or someone and form an opinion or have a reaction based on “presumptive foreplay.” We tell ourselves stories about what they are doing or saying. Sometimes we take it personally. Sometimes we judge. Sometimes we blame. Sometimes we are surprised to learn we're dead wrong, and sometimes we are spot on. In any case this practice is a dangerous one. It limits us. It closes off our minds and our experiences in life.

The act of “presumptive foreplay” creates a situation that sets us up to only see and hear what we want to see and hear , preventing us from growing and learning. More often than not it blocks us on many levels – from seeing the truth to experiencing a new wonderment of living. It is the act of living in a world where we are experiencing things as we dream them up …where our reality can become one that is based upon our imagination. We begin to believe things we have conjured up during this “presumptive foreplay” session, and then defend them, trying to prove them, just to make ourselves right and others wrong.

Participating in “presumptive foreplay”, when dealing with our friends and significant others, is a great way to ask for trouble and bring on problems. It can lead us down a path where we assume that our partners or friends know what we think and that we don't have to tell them what we want. We assume they are going to do what we want, because they know us so well. If they don't do what we assume they should do, we feel hurt and say, "You should have known."

A simple technique to avoid the ramifications of “presumptive foreplay” is this…… JUST LIVE!

You see, life is about “living” and living is about experiencing, and experiencing is about being open to new things, unexpected surprises, discovery, and unpredictability. So the next time you find yourself slipping into the state of “presumptive foreplay”, STOP - and start asking questions, communicate. Have the courage to explore and clarify things. You will find the truth and the truth is the path that will lead you to a harmonious, balanced existence filled with joy and peace.